by Aubrey Patterson
Do you find yourself saying yes to helping people when deep down you know you should say no?
Taking care of others isn't just something remarkable leaders like doing; it's in their DNA.
The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. (Mahatma Gandhi)
We're wired to say yes as individuals and it's natural that we want a culture where everyone is eager to support one another.
We Don't Have to Be Nutella
It can be really difficult to say no.
We can still lose ourselves in the service of others by saying no to those few who go beyond our values or what we've determined as key priorities.
A gracious decline isn't a rejection of the person. It's a recognition that you don't have the energy for this right now. (Adam Grant)
Whether real-life or social media, chasing likes can only be exhausting.
And shouldn't leaders make decisions based upon principles and not preferences?
We don’t have to be Nutella.
Not everyone needs to like us.
And what is the value of our yes, if we never say no?
Saying no to what's wrong means saying yes more often to what's right.