Warm demander leaders are compassionate, constructive, and courageous, but all of these qualities can feel impossibly distant when confusion creeps into our day.
Finding the right home base
Let's operate under an assumption that we all have a home base or mindset to which we return when we begin feeling overwhelmed or don't know where to begin.
Some return to a working home base, many to a worrying space, others land in an angry place. A few muster the courage and become more determined.
The greatest obstacle to building a more positive mindset home base is a lack of clarity. When times are tough, we need to simplify our problems, both perceived or real, and find a clear pathway to move forward.
Clear edges give direction and hope, much like the bumpers sometimes used with beginners that fill the gutters in a bowling alley.
Warm demanding leaders must inspire confidence and, when obstacles present themselves, quickly don their decluttering and clarity caps.
A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way. (John Maxwell)
When we are leading others in these very difficult and downright scary times, most often our best move is to define what is tight and loose.
Exceptionally clear communications, even to the point of redundancy, is our best opportunity to help those we serve better filter any confusion that leads to a negative home base.
Clarity precedes competence, establishes a more positive home base, and always serves as a prerequisite for growing a remarkable culture of compassionate, constructive, and courageous leaders.
Spark Positive Visualization
We have approximately 40,000 negative thoughts per day. Yikes, huh?
Create a highlight reel of 3-5 of your best moments in the notes on your phone and time block 2 minutes to "review my highlight reel" a few times a day; use recurring events in your calendar.
This doesn't have to be sitting at a desk. Maybe one of your time blocks is when you brush your teeth; that's an easy 2 minutes and positive start to the day, right?
Visualization, like meditation, is a muscle that needs to be exercised and we get better at It over time.